Sexual harassment is a serious issue that can have lasting emotional and psychological effects on the victim. The impact seen may be lifelong. As such, if a victim tells you about this issue, there is a need to give them at least some comfort and consideration.
Here are a few tips on how to go about it:
- Listen Actively:
Give them your undivided attention: Set aside distractions and concentrate on what they’re saying. Let them talk without judgment or interrupting.
Validate their emotions: Acknowledge their pain and let them know their feelings are valid.
- Believe Them:
Don’t question their story: Believe them, even though it’s hard to grasp.
Reassure them: Let them know that you believe in them and that you support them.
- Provide Support:
Be there for them: Let them know you are there for them, no matter what.
Professional support: Suggest them to see a therapist or counselor.
- Don’t Say phrases like “It could have been worse” or
“Just get over it”. This dismisses how they feel and what is happening in their world because of the trauma. And suggesting that the victim should’ve acted differently places blame on the victim.
Instead use phrases like
“I am so sorry this happened to you.”
“I will be here for what ever is needed.”
“No matter what, know this; You are never to blame.”
- Be patient: Healing takes time.
Respect their privacy: Don’t share their story without their consent.
Encourage self-care: Remind them to prioritize their well-being.
Following these guidelines can provide the much-needed support and comfort to a person who had suffered from sexual harassment. All of this means that your empathy and understanding can make a real big difference in someone’s healing process.
